As a wedding photographer who walks beside brides from dawn until the final toast, I’ve witnessed countless wedding days—each one unique, and each bride carrying her own mix of anticipation, joy, and (let’s be honest) nerves. But if there’s one truth I’ve learned through years of experience, it’s this: how you prepare in the months leading up to your wedding deeply impacts how you feel on the day itself.
This guide is designed to help you embrace ease, trust your team, and arrive at your wedding day feeling calm, radiant, and ready to immerse yourself in every luxurious moment.
3 Months Before the Wedding
Have Your Engagement Session With Your Wedding Photographer
Let’s begin with what I know best—photography. One of the most powerful ways to feel confident in front of the camera is by investing in an engagement session. Think of it as a prelude to the wedding: an opportunity to build connection with your photographer, learn flattering poses tailored to you, and begin cultivating trust so that by the wedding day, photography feels effortless.
This isn’t just about beautiful photos (though you’ll get those, too)—it’s about removing any stress around how you’ll look and feel when the camera is on you. You’ll see the results beforehand, and you’ll walk into your wedding knowing you’ll look as stunning as you feel.
2 Months Before the Wedding
Plan a Pre-Wedding Getaway
This might be the most underrated luxury of all: time together, just the two of you. Consider booking a quiet, unplugged holiday—a “pre-wedding moon”—where you can pause the planning, disconnect from the details, and reconnect with each other. Step away from timelines and colour palettes. This is your love story, after all. Give yourselves the gift of presence before the whirlwind begins.
1 Month Before the Wedding
Delegate and Let Go
This is the time to lean fully into the team you’ve assembled. Your planner, your bridal party, and those closest to you are all there for a reason. At this stage, the major decisions are already in place—what remains are small adjustments, not monumental tasks.
If you’ve hired a planner, trust them. They’re the professional now steering the ship. And for anything that does come up, your bridesmaids or family can gently filter what truly needs your attention. Your job now? Rest, hydrate, and get excited.
2 Weeks Before the Wedding
Go Completely Unplugged
Give yourself a full three-day break from all things wedding. No vendor calls. No dress fittings. No colour swatches or seating charts. Notify your planner in advance and set an out-of-office if needed. Use this time to simply be. Go on a date. Watch a movie. Walk barefoot in the garden. Reclaim a moment of normalcy before the celebration begins.
A Few Days Before the Wedding
Focus on Self-Care, Not Control
At this point, everything is in motion. The timeline is set, the suppliers are briefed, and your job is no longer to orchestrate—it’s to receive. Book a massage, nourish your body, spend time with your closest friends, and resist the urge to check every last detail. (Your suppliers will thank you.)
Above all, trust that the time for planning is done. This is the moment to prepare your heart, not your checklist.
The Day Before the Wedding
Indulge, Don’t Overthink
This is your final day before the celebration begins. Treat yourself to a long bath, a glass of champagne (just one!), and laughter with your best friends. If you’re staying onsite, settle into your suite with your bridal party and let the energy of the venue surround you.
Don’t dwell on small details. Nothing good ever comes from last-minute micromanagement. Instead, embrace the joy and serenity that comes from knowing you’ve done everything you needed to. Let tomorrow be magic.
The Wedding Day
Trust and Flow
The day has arrived. From the moment you open your eyes, let go. You’ve chosen each vendor because you trusted them to deliver excellence—so allow them to do exactly that.
Your role now is not to manage, but to feel. Soak in the love, the elegance, the surreal beauty of a day crafted just for you. Breathe deeply. Smile often. And most importantly—trust the flow.
You deserve to be fully present in every moment. Let it all unfold.
Ready to feel calm and confident on your wedding day?
Let’s start with an engagement session designed to help you feel at ease in front of the camera and fully supported every step of the way.
